Monday, February 1, 2010

Sisters and Friends

All of my kids get treated the same when it comes to gender...they all watch Cars and Tinkerbell, they all play with airplanes and wear princess shoes, and they all wrestle with daddy and snuggle with mommy...so it's been interesting to watch the gender differences begin to emerge between Timmy and the girls. If you put them in a room together, Timmy will find the cars and trains and the girls will gravitate towards anything pink!
I love being Timmy's mommy and while there is something so special and unique about the bond between a mother and her son, so is the bond, all be it completely different, between mothers and daughters. Emma and Kallie are so much fun...they're full of this softness and spunkiness....and well, just like the saying goes...

Sugar and spice and everything nice,
That's what girls are made of.

And it's true; they are!

Not only have I loved bonding with them, I've also loved watching the bond form between the two of them. They have a relationship that they don't seem to share with Timmy or anyone else. Maybe it's because they are identical, maybe it's just because they are sisters, I don't know, but they're connected in a way that I can't explain. They will stay up (for what seems like forever) during nap time, peaking through the slats of their cribs to see each other, talking and giggling, while Timmy is fast asleep. They laugh at the same things - they laugh when no one else is laughing and when no one else knows what they're laughing at. When they've been apart and first see each other again, their faces light up. They run straight to each other and into a hug, passing anybody who might be along the way...whether that's Timmy or me or Daddy - doesn't matter! And while sometimes I feel bad for Timmy and wonder if he'll ever feel left out, I am so grateful that the girls have each other....and that in each other they will always have a sister and a friend.

2 comments:

Rachael said...

my three have been equally exposed to and encouraged to love traditional male/female as well as gender neutral. and yet, they all gravitate towards something specific, so it has been really interesting to watch things unfold. i love to see the differences emerge among my trio as well...it astounds me sometimes. and as their relationships grow, it is really amazing to watch.

Jessica said...

I'm glad to hear another mother of a son say her boy loves cars and trains (and tractors and robots in my case). I really believe that boys and girls are wired differently and we just have to go with it.

Re: the girls, that's just about the sweetest, most amazing thing I've ever heard. And my guess is it's the indentical-ness, not the sister-ness. Mothers with twin daughters would know better than me, but my friend has twin girls (fraternal) and they're pals, but not overly affectionate or connected from what I can tell (they're 3 yo).

Soooo freaking cool that you get witness all of this!

(And yeah, I'm just going through reading up - haha - sorry for all the comments ;))